I started this blog, thinking I could share something of myself. I, like many bloggers, did one post and didn’t really know what else to do with it. I think what put me off … was that I got sucked into talking about my work … instead of me. Now there is a lot of “me” in my work. You just have to look beyond Courts, legislations, rules and paperwork.
So, I promise nothing legal. Well, there will have to be some legal comment and commentary because some of me is there, in the legal arena, … but this is about me. The whole me!
I have been touched by some really wonderful teachings lately. A truly amazing moment for me came from the work of Researcher / StoryTeller (!!), Dr Brene Brown. She has been doing some research into some really gutsy topics, including shame and vulnerability. I suggest that you check out her TedTalk. What really spoke to me, was the challenge she makes to our pursuit of perfection.
You know, the garbage we all use to slow down our best lives. “I can’t do that yet, because i don’t have enough success stories on my resume”. “I can’t do that, because I’m not old enough to be respected”. “I can’t do that, because I’m too old for that”. “I can’t do that, because I’m too fat / thin / rich / poor / tall / short ” . You all know what I mean!
She challenges us to live our best lives (what she calls wholehearted living) by throwing that perfection rot away, and seizing the serious challenge of being imperfect. That in being vulnerable enough to share our imperfections, we can be truly be connected … and therein lies our greatness.
So, for me … it is time to take a deep breath, throw off the shame of not being rich enough / successful enough / at home with my kids enough (I could go on … and I have put enough of my vulnerability out there for today) … and to embrace that I, Kathryn Hodges, AM ENOUGH!
What this means is that I’ve blown the cobwebs off my big plans. I’ve started working again on my book. I’ve pulled out my blog, and I’m putting it out there.
I love families. I love MY family.
Well, there’s some stuff out there. Here’s to finding and truly feeling my ENOUGHness!
Til next time
ps – did the blogging in Julie and Julia speak to everyone? Or was it just for me??