The last few days of last week were amazing.  A bit like the universe punching me in the face, but this time with good stuff.  I’m pretty used to the universe doing the whisper, nudge, tap, slap, punch in the face progression for stuff.  Those punches are usually painful, if I don’t get the hint and change what needs changing.

This time, the punch in the face, looked like this:

Sorry, I can’t seem to tell this story quickly.  So settle in and meander along with me.

Let me wind back the clock.  Back to the days when it was like I was stuck in a swamp.  It seemed that no matter which way I turned I seemed to end up back where I’d begun – wet, dark, cold and afraid.  I knew I was doing something wrong, and I tried to think and decide my way out of it.  And yet, I was still lost in the swamp.  So one day I decided to feel my way out of it.

I turned to Gratitude and to Giving.  I’ve talked before about the power of gratitude.  I’ve learned how meaningful Gratitude is in my life.  This week has been my lesson in the power of Giving.

Back to the swamp days.  I had read somewhere that from each inflow of money, we should save 10%, give 10%, and use the rest.  Now, there was no way at all that I could set aside 20%.  So I scaled it back. I mean right back.  I decided on 1%, to be divided between my savings account and my giving account.  That’s right.  Half a percent of our income for giving.  It was such a small amount, I couldn’t quite see the point, but I decided to try it anyway.  And so, the slowest donation savings plan in the history of the world (or so it seemed to me) began.

Then in a flash (but not really) there was money in there.  And yet, I couldn’t seem to give it away.  It sat there in my giving account, increasing each week, but not serving the purpose for which it had been collected.

Then finally, I found a key to unlock the gate to the bridge from thought to action.  It was through the words of the amazingly honest blogger Eden from Edenland  (sorry that’s clumsy but I don’t yet know how to link up). I read her words and immediately I knew.  Always give.  Nothing more.  Nothing less.  Just give.  Eden was chosen by World Vision to go to Niger in Africa to see the African food crisis first hand and share her story with us here in Australia in our comfortable, educated, appliance filled and overfed lives.  Her story spoke to me, one real person talking to another, describing lives that I can’t even imagine.

So, I took some action.  I went to World Vision and sponsored a child.  If you want to feel some discomfort – log onto  They don’t use models or sample children.  The faces you see, the faces I saw, are THE children waiting for our help.

I finally followed up with an inspiring twitter friend, and committed to a monthly donation to help her fund her orphanage in Cambodia.  I ordered a Giving Bowl to grow our giving practice at home. If you’ve never heard of Cate Bolt, and Foundation 18.  Check them out here.  They are a family who know how to give.

On Wednesday it was my birthday.  Dean was a little sad because one of the things he had bought for me had been left at the store.  That evening, Dean gave me a voucher with a code.  It was a promise that he would take me to New Zealand before the end of September, and the code for an online passport application that he’d started for me.  That was huge!  I need a passport for this holiday (which neither of us had any idea how it would happen).  Not because mine’s expired, but because I’ve never had one.  Yep.  That’s right.

So I jumped straight on the computer to get that passport application done.  Then I found I needed a code from our Marriage Certificate, which I don’t have.  So I quickly printed the form to get a new certificate.  I was pleased when I read I could submit it at a Magistrates Court because I was going to be in Court the following day.

So, on Thursday, I submitted my form for my Marriage Certificate over the counter at the Maryborough Courthouse.  I assumed I would see that baby in a week or so.

I had some time (and money) on the way home from Court and I decided to go to BigW to buy some basics for winter for our family.  Because it was time to stop holding our giving money, and start, well, giving it, I messaged Cate and asked if the orphanage kids could use anything.  Cate replied that undies would be great.  So I bought some.

When I got back to the Coast, I went and collected our mail.  Our beautiful Giving Bowl had arrived, and so had the information about Precious, our sponsor child.Image

Then Dean called to say that he’d made it through to the final round of a competition with our local radio station Hot 91, and he needed to be in the studio the next day for the draw.

So that was Thursday.  I felt flooded with warmth about giving and thought it almost weird that so much had happened on the one day.

Friday, was like Thursday but in topsy turvy land.  Firstly, and hugely, Dean WON, a trip for 2 to New Zealand plus accommodation and tons of cool stuff to do.  Yes, it really does happen to real people.  I listened to the draw and when it was clear that Dean had won, I cried.  I felt like the universe was giving him a huge hug and saying “thanks for hanging in there, it’s done now, have some fun”.  I really should apologise to every person I saw on Friday, because I was probably a bit over excited.

Then, these things happened, and I swear I’m not making this up.

–        my Marriage Certificate arrived in the mail.  How that’s even possible when I had only put in the form the day before, I don’t know.  But it arrived.

–        Dean had a client call him and say “sorry, I forgot to leave the key out for you.  Have the afternoon off, and I’ll still pay you because it’s my mistake”.

–        Dean went back to pick up the missing gift for me and the store owner give Dean a second one for free (they’re those gorgeous sparkly decorative balls in the photo with Precious and the Giving Bowl).

I’m not sharing this so people can say “you’re donating money, good on you”, or “yay you’ve won a trip” (Squeeeee we’ve won a trip!!!! ).  I hope that those who read this feel the lesson that’s for me and for them.  Giving (for one) is receiving (for another) and some days you’ll be the “one”, and other days you’ll be the “another”.  Don’t analyse your giving.  Just give.  Often.  Not because you can, because you must.

K xxx


About Kathryn Hodges

Hi! I'm Kathryn. I have many hats in this life. I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother (of 4!), a friend, a keen try-er of yoga, a lawyer, a business owner, an avid reader and a lover of this electronic world and it's connections. As the Principal of a wonderful law firm on the Sunshine Coast, Qld, Australia, I focus on seeing my clients as people going through change and I am committed to practising mindfully that I am dealing with people and their families. Precious stuff, hey! I hope you enjoy learning more about the things that impact on me, my life and my practice. Please leave me a comment, as I'm sure you have something you can show or teach me. We're all in this learning thing, called life, together xx Oh, and my professional obligations mean I have to remind you that my opinions are my own.
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13 Responses to Giving is Receiving.

  1. Kathryn Hodges says:

    Oh my! I forgot to thank the radio station. D’oh! Thanks so much to for being the channel for this gift. xx

  2. Oh my, what a gorgeous story….you obviously deserve it! Firstly, Happy Birthday. Secondly, thankyou so much for the gratitude reminder for all of us. Thirdly, thankyou for re-affirming the greatness of gratitude. Fourthly, thankyou for sharing. And fifthly, enjoy your holiday…& New Zealand. So stoked for you….!! love Roni xx

    • Kathryn Hodges says:

      THANKS x 5 🙂
      And because my lesson was giving as well – keep passing that gratitude forward, Roni xxx

  3. Debyl1 says:

    Like I said to you on Twitter when I felt your joy and did the happy dance for you,all the good you did the day before and then you won.Isnt the universe wonderful.Well deserved.It is always a lovely feeling to give no matter how big or how small and its great you spread that word.xx

  4. edenland says:



    “Don’t analyse your giving .. just give. Often.” LOVE LOVE LOVE. I felt this when I bought a hobo a drink and a pastry at France airport then no less than an hour later, was depending on the kindness of an airline stewardess to get me to my right shuttle on time.

    There’s something bigger and deeper in giving, than we realise.

    Congratulations on your trip to NZ, that is seriously cool.



    • Kathryn Hodges says:

      Thanks Eden. I’m all tongue tied now.
      And yep – there’s a bigger and deeper to everything. x
      K xx

  5. catebolt says:

    How awesome Kathryn. I’m so glad Edens words were able to inspire you to give.

    Congratulations on your trip to NZ. It’s easy to think that we’re on the wrong track sometimes or that things aren’t going the way we planned. I think it’s important to always believe that at all times, every one of us is exactly where we need to be. No matter how wrong at feels at the time.

    • Kathryn Hodges says:

      Thanks Cate,
      I think I had been trapped in the “until I’ve sorted it out I can’t relax” loop.
      Instead of realising, THIS, is it. This is the life I’m here for. On the way to getting it sorted IS the end. I hope that makes sense.
      Thanks for commenting Cate, and I hope that others aren’t as slow as me to act on their wishes to give.
      K xx

  6. drcarls says:

    no words xxx
    I have ordered a giving bowl…
    you inspire me
    love me

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