Kind Monday. An Unexpected Recipient.

So, this challenge is about Random Acts of Kindness and Paying it Forward. To do just one a week, and then share that experience.

This week’s result came as a bit of a surprise.

The recipient, this week, of my kindness is this person.

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Someone that you may recognise more quickly as this person.

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Yes.  It’s me. Minus the neon hairclips.  They kind of rocked, don’t you think?

Sorry, distracted by hairclips.  Not surprising.

This week.  I wasn’t Random.  I didn’t Pay it Forward.  I’m being Kind to me.  Because I failed.

I failed my challenge.  In a whole week (and really it was a week and a half because last week’s was done on Wednesday) I did not seize one opportunity to create a Kind Moment.  That’s not to say I wasn’t kind.  This morning, I even drove Mr13 to the bus stop and waited in the car with him in the pouring rain until his bus arrived.  That’s Kindness, isn’t it?

Again.  Distracted.  Avoiding the failure.

I could beat myself up for it, and go on about how I failed, and that surely in a 10 day block I could have done better.  Or maybe that I’m too busy or whatever.

But you know what, learning to be OK with failure is pretty important.  It helps us to be resilient and creative and far more brave.  And I could use a whole bunch of that.

I’ve spent an awful lot of time in my life making sure that I follow the rules, colour inside the lines and always look for the approving glances from others in authority.  I’m starting to think that life could be pretty different if I just turned the dial down on those things for a while.  To let myself fail.  To try things, not knowing whether or not they’ll work out.  To not worry so much about following the rules, but rather making up my own game and having some fun.

So, tonight, my lesson is one of sharing a failure.  And in doing so, giving my weekly dose of Kindness, not to a stranger, but to myself.

After all, it’s really ok to trip and fall, as long as we get back up, and start walking, running, dancing or skipping, anything really.  As long as we’re back in the game.

Have you failed anything recently?  Could you give yourself a dose of Kindness, and try again?  I’d love to hear what you think about failing and second (and third and more) chances.

K xxx

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About Kathryn Hodges

Hi! I'm Kathryn. I have many hats in this life. I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother (of 4!), a friend, a keen try-er of yoga, a lawyer, a business owner, an avid reader and a lover of this electronic world and it's connections. As the Principal of a wonderful law firm on the Sunshine Coast, Qld, Australia, I focus on seeing my clients as people going through change and I am committed to practising mindfully that I am dealing with people and their families. Precious stuff, hey! I hope you enjoy learning more about the things that impact on me, my life and my practice. Please leave me a comment, as I'm sure you have something you can show or teach me. We're all in this learning thing, called life, together xx Oh, and my professional obligations mean I have to remind you that my opinions are my own.
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5 Responses to Kind Monday. An Unexpected Recipient.

  1. Carla Rogers says:

    See because you can’t pick one big act of kindness, you’ve interpreted it as a fail. Well I’m here to tell you that, for example, responding to my text today when I needed some advice – that was an act of kindness…. yes it was, because I was asking for professional advice that in that moment you gave me, despite no payment. It’s the small things Kathryn, don’t forget that babe.

    ALSO, you inspired me today …. while I didn’t end up performing an act of kindness…. I was ready to. Let me explain. I was in the servo just grabbing a can of soft drink and the lady at the next register tried to pay for her $30 worth of fuel. her card was declined and she said to the lady, hang on, just let me transfer some funds. I loitered. yes I did. I loitered in that shop waiting to check that she could successfully transfer funds… my fingers itching to take that $30 from my wallet but fearing that she would reject me (as I probably would reject someone elses offer of $30). But I sat in my car, wrote out my details on a piece of paper and was ready to go back in and hand her the money and my details (so that if she felt the need she could contact me to pay me back). The entire time I sat in that car I was thinking of you and your acts of kindness. She was successful in her payment and I watched her drive away.

    Your very posting has raised my awareness…. as it did for my 365 day gratitude challenge last year…

    That is your act of kindness

    xxxxxx

  2. Anthea says:

    What a lovely message…. well a lot of them actually …. be kind to yourself is more important than we realise. It’s actually easier to beat ourselves up for failing, than it is to be kind to ourselves for being human. Mine? At times, not being the parent I aspire to. That’s the most prominent for me at the moment.

    • Kathryn Hodges says:

      I agree Anthea,
      We have learned, no perfected, the art of being high critical of ourselves. That has served us well to ‘play the game’. But it does not serve us in life.
      It is a new lesson to work on. I hope you can unlearn some, and allow softness and kindness where it is needed most.
      K x

  3. Vanessa moore says:

    No fail. It just didn’t appear. You were looking and maybe it was right in front of you…..YOU needed that act of kindness and to get the lesson about failure.

    Fail is for school not life. As long as I am trying I will never fail. That’s my mantra. I was supposed to come home from conference and write a loan and new goals and start working on it, well guess what? I got home on feb 25 and it is now march 7 and I still haven’t done it. That’s not a fail, that is shit happens, I will do it when the time is right, just like you will do your act of kindness, again and again and again, just not last week

    Xxoxoxo

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