Have you ever thought about your relationship with food?
I know I didn’t, other than worrying about whether or not the food I was eating was going to make me put on weight.
In the last year or so I have read about a theory that I think makes a whole lot of sense. I first came across it through the work of Geneen Roth in her book Women Food & God.
That theory asks us to step back from shoving the next
cupcake croissant handful of chips piece of chocolate *insert the food of your choice* into your mouth, and to look inside for the feeling you are looking for.
I haven’t finished my exploring with this, but I do know that emotionally, I am driven to seek out soft and sweet foods.
And knowing that, means that it is much easier to make a choice. Do I really want to stand at the cupboard door and grab a
lot couple of chocolate bikkies, or am I trying to heal a hurt, or feel like I matter or ?
I know that for a very long time, I have stopped and bought a coffee and a sweet treat on the way home from Court, “because I deserve something nice”. An interesting little choice that was all about how I was feeling, and nothing to do with the food. And yet, I thought it was the food that I was seeking.
Once I started playing with this, I found that if I took a moment to see what I actually wanted to feel, it was easier to swap something to eat or drink, with something else. Time to read, a new shirt or pair of shoes, something to make our home look a bit more lovely, a book to devour.
I invite you to try it. Look at each of these foods, and see what feeling they bring up for you, and how you think you would feel if you were able to have some. See if you can get beyond the taste, and feel what you would feel.
Warm beautiful cups of coffee. Imagine them in front of you. What does that bring up for you?
Home made cinnamon scrolls straight from the oven. For me, there is definitely something about homemade food that makes me feel love and loved. And yet interestingly, when we were early in our marriage, Dean shared that for him homemade meant too broke to buy it.
A fancy cocktail on a dimly lit night. Does this bring on relaxation or party time for you? Or something else entirely ?
I certainly don’t feel any pull to dive on in to some bowls of chopped and grated veggies. But boy they make me feel active and ready to move, just looking at them.
Give it a go, and let me know what shows up for you.