Themed Thursdays. Family Life. Pt1

Can you believe that we have somehow slipped into another month. July. Really? For real??
July is pretty darn exciting!
It is the start of a new financial year. Another chance to begin again. To crack open a new set of financial books, full of enthusiasm and hope for the future. Happy New Financial Year!!!
What is so much more exciting is that July 2013 is an amazing month in our family. It is the month that my baby sister, Bronwyn, gets married to her love, Phillip. Squeeee!!!!!
And how super amazingly cool is this?!? When I chose my monthly themes at the start of the year, before we even knew there would be a wedding, I chose Family Life as my theme for July. Awesome!

I thought that the perfect way to delve into our family life would be for me to step back for a bit, and ask the people who matter most, what makes us a family.

And here it is. Completely unedited. This is how how the members of my family answer this question:
“What do we do that makes you feel like we’re a family?”

Bayley
Nothing, we just are. But if I had to say something, it’s been helping the Allen’s getting into their house and with Rob’s illness.

Tyben
That we share a bathroom. That we all sacrifice things for each other. And when we sit together, do “my favourite part of the day” and chatting and laughing over dinner.

Coby
Watching the Lorax. And my memories of being a little kid. When Bayley and Tyben didn’t fight.

Sabrina
When everyone is calm and there is no fights. When we go to watch Bayley play basketball. After we go to Grandma’s or when we get to go to Presley’s. When Daddy stays home and he lets us stay home.

Dean
Having takeaway together.

So there you have it. From the mouths of those who matter. You have no idea how I want to go back and tweak things, explain things. But I think I may just need to hear them.

There is talk of sharing, of calm (not fighting!), extended family and takeaway. When Dean said takeaway I felt the warm wash of shame and failure for my family. I felt a heart tweak when Sabrina spoke of time home with Daddy. Although it makes sense as she has, truth be told, spent more time with Dean than with me.

There was no mention of a magic moment. No amazing thing that happened. Just ordinary things and a feeling of connection.

It makes me both fear for and feel free about our Family Life. I worry that we haven’t done enough to help our children make memories about our Family Life. And yet, their sense of Family is far more likely to come from the everyday, than the sometimes.

What do you do that makes your Family feel like a family?

K x

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About Kathryn Hodges

Hi! I'm Kathryn. I have many hats in this life. I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother (of 4!), a friend, a keen try-er of yoga, a lawyer, a business owner, an avid reader and a lover of this electronic world and it's connections. As the Principal of a wonderful law firm on the Sunshine Coast, Qld, Australia, I focus on seeing my clients as people going through change and I am committed to practising mindfully that I am dealing with people and their families. Precious stuff, hey! I hope you enjoy learning more about the things that impact on me, my life and my practice. Please leave me a comment, as I'm sure you have something you can show or teach me. We're all in this learning thing, called life, together xx Oh, and my professional obligations mean I have to remind you that my opinions are my own.
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