Themed Thursdays. Passion & Purpose. Pt2.

Last week, I shared about some Purpose and Passion inspiration I felt after watching an interview and I wrote about it here.

Someone I know messaged me after reading that post to share a theme she had recently come across.  It had been a theme at a child behaviour conference, but that perhaps it is worth considering for all of us.

The idea that had been included in the seminar was:

Focus on what is Strong, not what is Wrong

Pretty profound, really.

It got me thinking, about how arbitrary are the things that our society has determined should be strong, and by implication, the things that are wrong.

I was blessed with being strong in the areas that are measured at school.  I was good at reading, writing and maths.  Which set me up to be able to have a swathe of career options, and lets me have moments like this as part of my normal workday

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Just imagine though what would have been my outcome, if the things that were measured were my “wrong”.  What if it had been about athletic ability, or theatric creativity or the capacity to take apart a computer methodically?

Our son Coby has some difficulties with the reading and the writing and the maths part of school.  Recently, he had some real success and got 10/10 on his spelling test.

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This is real success for Coby.  In fact, it is pretty darn amazing and is a wonderful indication of how very hard he has been working lately.

But he is 8.  And it would be easy to see someone who is just learning to carefully spell 3 letter rhyming words as having something wrong.

What if the measure was whether you could take a computer apart methodically?

069Here he is at 7.  Everything you see on the table he took apart. No breaking or smashing. Screw by screw.  Clearly there is nothing wrong with a 7 year old who can do that.

So, instead of measuring everyone around you by what you do well, remember the important of focusing on what is Strong, not what is Wrong.

I believe it is our challenge to look, within ourselves and others around us, for the thing that they are Strong in.  And then measure them (or ourselves) by that, and not their weakness.

After all, if you wanted to measure my capacities in life by my ability to play football, do engine repairs, or climb a mountain, I am totally and utterly inept.

So when you next meet someone who can’t do what you can do, or who is struggling with “the basics”, don’t keep your emphasis on what is wrong.  They will have their own strength, and it could be something completely unexpected.

Imagine a world where we all comfortably knew to focus on what is Strong, not what is Wrong.

Aaaahhhhhh. All I can do is exhale.

What is the special strength you have seen either in yourself or someone special to you?

K xxx


About Kathryn Hodges

Hi! I'm Kathryn. I have many hats in this life. I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother (of 4!), a friend, a keen try-er of yoga, a lawyer, a business owner, an avid reader and a lover of this electronic world and it's connections. As the Principal of a wonderful law firm on the Sunshine Coast, Qld, Australia, I focus on seeing my clients as people going through change and I am committed to practising mindfully that I am dealing with people and their families. Precious stuff, hey! I hope you enjoy learning more about the things that impact on me, my life and my practice. Please leave me a comment, as I'm sure you have something you can show or teach me. We're all in this learning thing, called life, together xx Oh, and my professional obligations mean I have to remind you that my opinions are my own.
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2 Responses to Themed Thursdays. Passion & Purpose. Pt2.

  1. Vanessa moore says:

    Focus on strong not wrong. Just what I need to do with myself right now, this week, tomorrow especially.

    Missed this one and now I know why. I was meant to read it tonight, before the start of a new week.

    Great timing again Sista. Xoxoxox

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