Last week, I shared about some Purpose and Passion inspiration I felt after watching an interview and I wrote about it here.
Someone I know messaged me after reading that post to share a theme she had recently come across. It had been a theme at a child behaviour conference, but that perhaps it is worth considering for all of us.
The idea that had been included in the seminar was:
Focus on what is Strong, not what is Wrong
Pretty profound, really.
It got me thinking, about how arbitrary are the things that our society has determined should be strong, and by implication, the things that are wrong.
I was blessed with being strong in the areas that are measured at school. I was good at reading, writing and maths. Which set me up to be able to have a swathe of career options, and lets me have moments like this as part of my normal workday
Just imagine though what would have been my outcome, if the things that were measured were my “wrong”. What if it had been about athletic ability, or theatric creativity or the capacity to take apart a computer methodically?
Our son Coby has some difficulties with the reading and the writing and the maths part of school. Recently, he had some real success and got 10/10 on his spelling test.
This is real success for Coby. In fact, it is pretty darn amazing and is a wonderful indication of how very hard he has been working lately.
But he is 8. And it would be easy to see someone who is just learning to carefully spell 3 letter rhyming words as having something wrong.
What if the measure was whether you could take a computer apart methodically?
So, instead of measuring everyone around you by what you do well, remember the important of focusing on what is Strong, not what is Wrong.
I believe it is our challenge to look, within ourselves and others around us, for the thing that they are Strong in. And then measure them (or ourselves) by that, and not their weakness.
After all, if you wanted to measure my capacities in life by my ability to play football, do engine repairs, or climb a mountain, I am totally and utterly inept.
So when you next meet someone who can’t do what you can do, or who is struggling with “the basics”, don’t keep your emphasis on what is wrong. They will have their own strength, and it could be something completely unexpected.
Imagine a world where we all comfortably knew to focus on what is Strong, not what is Wrong.
Aaaahhhhhh. All I can do is exhale.
What is the special strength you have seen either in yourself or someone special to you?